Physical aggression or violence is obviously the worst form of abuse. But other forms of abuse are equally worse when you consider the long term consequences. Abuse is not confined to romantic relationships. It is rampant in families, among friends, colleagues and even in social relationships. Here are some signs you must identify to infer if you are in an abusive relationship. Most people don’t focus on these simple realities and identify them as a form of abuse.
When you do all the sacrifices or compromises. This is really simple to assess. Compromise may seem to be a bad word but it is a reality. One should call it the way of life. Every sphere of our lifestyle demands some kind of compromise or adjustment. As long as such adjustments are acceptable, reasonable and demanding flexibility from both of you, it is fine. If it is just you, then you need to address this abuse.
Disrespect is certainly a form of abuse. Ridiculing one’s choices all the time, highlighting one’s mistakes repeatedly, not treating one as an equal and looking down upon one’s partner in specific circumstances, which could be because of the lack of expertise, is unhealthy in a relationship. A relationship is not about one-upmanship.
A relationship where either or both partners are uncomfortable with one another will become an abusive relationship sooner or later. Some people find their self esteem dented when they are with their boyfriend or girlfriend. Some spouses feel they are the second most important person in the relationship and are always waiting or responding, not acting or choosing.
Abuse can be physical, psychological, emotional, financial, verbal or behavioral. It could be one or several at a given time. Financial abuse starts normally and one doesn’t realize till it reaches the zenith. Many people choose to live with financial abuse. Just like others who choose to live with emotional abuse. It is a person’s prerogative to choose but it is necessary to at least identify and know the abuse one is dealing with.
There are many nuances of different types of abuse. Silent treatments are a favorite resort for narcissists. Shrugging off responsibilities is common among codependent partners. Exerting control and being dictatorial are common among possessive partners.
Abusive relationships can be mended but one must accept the reality and then respond appropriately. Ignoring signs of abuse is self infliction of further abuse.